Today scene with another practical use of assertiveness.
You are in the company, story telling, curiosity, wit, share experience, when someone suddenly cuts you in mid-sentence, end your statement and gets applause.
What to do?
traditionally have several exits. Traditionally, everything will depend on your relationship to the caller and how to treat himself. Traditionally
so let's discuss your options so you can just pick what suits you best.
If the situation quiet, eye cum, and having put a smile on duty 5 or nodding add "exactly it was so "- keep passively , once again, others will be more important, once again, a good education will turn against you.
You can also not give up, and measuring the menacing look to throw the caller, "Now I say," You can also call him "an idiot" or use the riposte or not cut in the style of Uncle Staszek (if you do not know the cut repartee ala uncle Staszek type in Google "Uncle Master Cut Staszek retort). If you serve to keep this strategy aggressively - Take care of themselves, thereby trampling on the rights of others.
Or for the sake of the applause of the caller to use to their advantage, and will run everything that embarrasses him, will operate everything makes softened - remember why it is hit below the belt, what else what out there "after a queen is" a dzinsik a colleague in a frost-dressed. " confounding keep the caller manipulacyjnie - probably regain the applause, the only question is how quickly you lose him ...
You can also quite otherwise.
can behave assertively. You can work with your head. You can work with peace of mind. So calmly. This will need to act quickly to act vigilantly.
Your peace of mind is an expression of your assertiveness. Without it, you do not do anything will not be assertive.
To gain peace of mind remember beware of assessing the caller. If someone interrupts you in mid-sentence just interrupt you, you're not for nothing, you do not ignore or try to be exploited at your expense.
If someone interrupts you does not mean also that it has no culture. Maybe you just do not know that you are very disturbing. may not know and did not know about it until I find out about this from you. No one knows how you want to be treated, until you yourself do not teach it.
If you are vigilant when someone you break You too can stop him. You can tell
caller of its results, talking about what you feel, also to yourself to feel it. Describing the feelings after you have control over them. But that's not all. To Your learning to be effective you must also know what you want in exchange and precise about it.
Foolishly I feel like I interrupt. You are about to finish. Can I finish? /, Please, do not interrupt me.
If you lose your vigilance, and the story is Your also need you to be calm. Because you have to calmly, assertively to thank him for being so accurate recognition of your story:)
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