In every relationship with another person we are dealing with the ups and downs. Often we hurt feelings in some way the other person, often act to its detriment, for various reasons. The realization of evil is the first step in overcoming it, but what to do next? What if we stand on this side, which has been hurt in some way?
Pretending that nothing happened is just creating an illusion. Instead wound to heal, it will be shadowed and the inside will be sensitive to digest the tissue of interpersonal relationships. Intuitively, we conclude that in order to strengthen the relationship tarnished, we need a double-acting. One side must repent, and one must forgive. Forgive and forget. Do not displace the memory of bad moments, but learn from them for the future. On the other hand, you have to truly forgive and give up entirely blame.
But what to do if the same evil is repeated many times? Can we still trust the sincerity of repentance of the other person? Is forgiving the wrongs committed, not give the silent acceptance of this action, playing down the wrong which we have experienced? How to solve this problem?
First we must realize that something in this situation is not so. We are here to a twofold evil. The first problem is specific harm that was caused and can be forgiven in the normal way. However, apart from the specific harm, we are dealing with another, bigger and more serious evil. It is the abuse of forgiveness. This offense is much more complicated. The impact is not only the body itself in our relationship, but in its spirit, in its very essence. In the trust. Can we trust the person who abused our trust?
Is guilty of abuse of forgiveness, forgiveness can ever be made? Do the same abuse of the pardon, does not degrade its importance? The end of the end will bring the relationship to the point where we seem to forgive, even though deep down we realize that nothing changes. That there are no proposals for the future. That still will repeat the same thing. So how do you do that it did not happen? Maybe you just have to carry out a frank conversation and think about what to do next. Maybe you need is not just forgiveness, but a deep inner transformation. Is there another way to save the trust? Or is it just the wine that can not be truly forgive?
Pretending that nothing happened is just creating an illusion. Instead wound to heal, it will be shadowed and the inside will be sensitive to digest the tissue of interpersonal relationships. Intuitively, we conclude that in order to strengthen the relationship tarnished, we need a double-acting. One side must repent, and one must forgive. Forgive and forget. Do not displace the memory of bad moments, but learn from them for the future. On the other hand, you have to truly forgive and give up entirely blame.
But what to do if the same evil is repeated many times? Can we still trust the sincerity of repentance of the other person? Is forgiving the wrongs committed, not give the silent acceptance of this action, playing down the wrong which we have experienced? How to solve this problem?
First we must realize that something in this situation is not so. We are here to a twofold evil. The first problem is specific harm that was caused and can be forgiven in the normal way. However, apart from the specific harm, we are dealing with another, bigger and more serious evil. It is the abuse of forgiveness. This offense is much more complicated. The impact is not only the body itself in our relationship, but in its spirit, in its very essence. In the trust. Can we trust the person who abused our trust?
Is guilty of abuse of forgiveness, forgiveness can ever be made? Do the same abuse of the pardon, does not degrade its importance? The end of the end will bring the relationship to the point where we seem to forgive, even though deep down we realize that nothing changes. That there are no proposals for the future. That still will repeat the same thing. So how do you do that it did not happen? Maybe you just have to carry out a frank conversation and think about what to do next. Maybe you need is not just forgiveness, but a deep inner transformation. Is there another way to save the trust? Or is it just the wine that can not be truly forgive?
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